Are you a Miss, a Mrs, a Ms?

If you’re a Mrs I can safely assume you are or were married, possibly divorced holding onto a title.

If you ar a Miss, this may mean  you are single or not married to your partner.

If you are a Ms, you may be divorced, you may be older and no longer a Miss in the sense that we think Miss is for younger females. You may be a widow or you use Ms as not having to explain yourself or your current relationship status.

If you are a Mr.. Well aren't you lucky?  You keep the same title through your whole life. No indication of marriage, no indication of being single or divorced. You will never have to change your licence or jump through the hoops of proving your identity, former name or title when applying for a passport or applying for government benefits. 
The whole Miss Mrs Ms are a bit outdated and I want to drive a change.  

Females inherit or gain their surnames, firstly of our fathers, because our mothers have done the same.

Then if we choose to take on our husband's name, we still are identified or branded within a patriarchal system.
I’m here to say, in the name of my father, then husband I had lost myself and now it’s time to venture on a journey of self discovery to find ME.  You’ve landed here, the beginning of your own journey to challenge your name.

Miss Mrs Ms ME is about break-ups and make-ups, reinvention and regret, the quiet unravelling and rebuilding of who we are. It’s a space to examine how our identities shift through love, loss, marriage, divorce, motherhood, friendship  and all the in-between versions of ourselves that rarely get named.

This site is prompted by a manuscript I completed, yet to be published. This project is growing beyond the page into conversation and community, with a podcast spin-off which should be up and running soon. If you’ve ever felt untethered from the title you were given Miss, Mrs, Ms, the name you never chose but were given at birth,  you’re not alone. 

I’m inviting women, and anyone questioning their identity, to join me here so we can travel together, share honestly, and slowly uncover who we are when the labels fall away to become your best honest stripped back  ME.
BTW labels can be friendly, meaningful and something to be proud of but when the label doesn't fit, it leads to all sorts of assumptions and unattainable expectations. To take your husband’s name may be joyous, I am not judging anyone but curiously exploring options.  

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Tell your sisters from other mothers to join the conversation by following us on Instagram, listening to the podcast and contacting us to share your story.